With more and more people joining the wonderful world of sex toy owners, the question on everyone’s mind (or at least the minds of those getting busy with amazing sex accessories) is how does one know whether their lubricant is ok to use with their sex toys or not. Given that some high quality sex toys can run in the range of hundreds of dollars, it is no wonder that people are wanting to make sure that their favorite lube isn’t going to damage their favorite new dildo, vibrator or butt plug.

The first lube to eliminate outright from sex toy survivor is oil based lubes. Not only should oil based lubes not be used internally (they can coat the anus or vagina, and prevent your body from properly cleaning itself); they shouldn’t be used on sex toys. Regardless of the sex toy material, oil based products (including lubes, creams and massage oils) can coat your toy, and the only way to get the oil off of them is by using chemicals that aren’t going to be friendly to either your toy or your body. Basically, keep the oil away from you sex toys, period.

The next lube to be put on probation is silicone based lubricant, but we can’t kick silicone off the island completely. silicone based lubes are fine on toys made of hard materials, like hard plastic, aluminum, ceramic, steel, granite, wood, marble, etc. They will keep things nice and slick while you are playing with your partner, your toys, or even both, and will wash off with some nice soap and water when you are done with your fun and frivolity. However, it is important to keep silicone lubes away from sex toys that are made of or contain silicone. While this may sound counter intuitive, silicone lube and silicone toys (and really, most soft toys including jelly, sil-a-gel, etc) want to both be the same. Ergo, if you use silicone lube on silicone toys, the lube will start to solidify onto the toy, and the toy will start to melt into the lube, leaving you with a toy that has a melted cheese like consistency on the outside. Cool science, yes, but probably not what you want to happen to your brand new, medical grade silicone dildo. This is the same reason that you should not stack or pile silicone toys in a drawer together, touching each other; you might come back to a conglomerate of dildos!

The clear winner of sex toy survivor is water based lubricants. All water based lubricants, including flavored lubes, cooling lubes and warming lubes that are water based, are compatible with sex toys of all materials. Water based lubricants might not last as long before getting a little tacky, but just add a little more water to reactivate them, and the party will keep going. Regardless of what your toy if made of, water based lubes are safe for it. Just use soap and warm water to wash them (or sterilize silicone, metal, ceramic and glass by boiling, dishwashing or wiping down with a 10% bleach solution before rinsing) to keep your toy clean, and stay away from alcohol based cleaning products that could shorten the life of your toys.